• Happy Valentine’s Day

    I came across this beautiful writing below and being that today is Valentine’s Day I wanted to share it with all of you.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” Oh, it’s okay, I say. I’m totally fine on my own and I don’t need a man or anyone to show up for me. “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” Well everyone else left, I say, not because it was time: they left because it got hard, or scary or too much: so why would you be any different?

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” But I’m not perfect, I say. I think I look really weird in side profile, and my belly is getting these strange lines and my teeth are getting yellow from all that coffee and my neck might be sagging.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” I got sexually abused as a kid, I say. And it’s not pretty, it’s not romantic like in the films where you just cry a bit and it goes away – it makes me lash out sometimes and shut down and do things I don’t totally understand.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” Sometimes I’ll emasculate you, I say, I won’t mean too, but I’ll totally do it ’cause that’s what I learned. I don’t even mean it, but it will hurt.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” I’ve got a wall around my heart, I say, ’cause my Dad left and so did my first love and that guy I thought was my soulmate. Sometimes I’ll think I don’t love you or anyone or myself, but that’s just ’cause everyone I loved left.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” I’m not falling for it, I say. Everyone knows that long-term relationships don’t last and everyone cheats and it’s better to just be free and wild and do what you want.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” There are better women out there, I say. Ones who don’t pick fights and don’t go crazy and stop when you ask them too.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” I’m gonna be powerful, I say. I’m gonna be brilliant and big and I’m not dimming my light for anyone, especially not you, and I’ve been told that men fear powerful women.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here. “I’m going to keep evolving, I say, like at the speed of light. I’m going to love myself completely and know divinity in my bones and I’m not stopping for anyone.

    “I’m here,” he says, “I love you and I’m here.” Well. Shit, I say, fresh out of excuses. …”I want to love you for all you are as a man,” I say, “and bring out the best in you and accept all of you and show up for you and love you like you’ve never known and inspire your genius and your authenticity and your heart and your desire through our lives together.”

    “Yeah, he says, that’s why I’m here. “Okay,” I say.” Can we be even brighter and more amazing and incredible together than we ever could be alone, and yet still retain our individual freedom and essence?” Yes, he says, that’s what love is.

    Then, I’m here, I say, I love you and I’m here. Me too, he says.

    ~Layla Martin

    I was in awe when I read the above writing because I feel that it definitely reflects the fears, the insecurities, and the walls that many women including myself have built when it comes to love and relationships.

    However at the end it shows us what we need to strive for in love and relationships. We want to be the empowered women that we are or are becoming, but we also need to be courageous enough to allow a man to enter our world and share mutual love. We need to allow ourselves to trust a man, but first we need to gain trust in ourselves.

    We want to be strong, but we also need to be able to recognize that part of being strong is being vulnerable, and we need to be vulnerable in our relationships, especially in a romantic relationship.

    We want to be independent, but it is also okay to allow a man to have our back, and spoiled us by treating us like the goddesses that we really are.

    We need to be able to be mature enough to see and accept that person for who he is knowing that we also need to be seen and accepted for who we are.

    We need to know that our happiness does not depend on anyone else but us, but we also need to know that together we can continue to inspire and support each other on our own individual’s journey as well as our journey as a couple.

    That being said I want to educate you on that Women’s Empowerment can also help you in the area of love. Now I want to be very clear, I am not advertising myself as a love coach, but what I am saying is that with Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy as your map you can empower yourself in any area of your life, and this of course does not exclude love.

    Empowerment comes from you remembering the truth of who you are, and utilizing the tools that I will provide you with on your soul’s journey.

    If you choose to focus on love, it is not only about “getting the man,” but it is about transcending your past and your conditioning so that you are able to create being in a healthy and loving relationship. However my vision for you is even greater than that: It is about you becoming the Self; becoming the whole and complete being that you are, so that you can create the life of your dreams.

    I want to wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day whether you are in a relationship or single. In my country Valentine’s Day is actually celebrated in September and instead of Valentine’s Day, it is called The Day of Love and Friendship. I invite you to think of Valentine’s Day as simply that: The Day of Love because love encompasses it all.

    If you are in a relationship, then that is wonderful you get to express your love in your relationship. If you are single, that is absolutely okay it is still a day of love and love can be express in many forms: in friendships like it is also done in my country, or even better than that what a wonderful day to have an excuse to be very loving and caring towards yourself.

    Therefore be the love that you are and receive the love that life has for you.

    Apply today for your Free Empowerment Alignment Session and you will not only learn how my coaching can help you in love, but I will also share with you some loving surprises♥.                                                                                            

6 Responsesso far.

  1. Eileen Burns says:

    Great Blog and thank you for sharing I agree such a beautiful piece of writing. Happy Valentine Liliana x

  2. Glory says:

    I absolutely love your blog and find the majority of your post’s
    to be precisely what I’m looking for. Do you offer guest writers to
    write content for yourself? I wouldn’t mind composing
    a post or elaborating on a lot of the subjects you
    write regarding here. Again, awesome web site!

    • Liliana says:

      Thank you Glory. Unfortunately no I do not offer guests writers, but I do hope you compose some of your writings as it sounds like you are very passionate about it. 🙂
      Kind regards and once again thank you for your comment.

  3. Inspiring message on Valentine’s Day.. Yes! it does not matter if we are single or in a relationship.. LOVE is a state of being and not just having. I love the script from Layla Martin too. Thank you.