Are you one of those people that have worked hard all of your life to get to where you want to get, but somehow you feel that you are not there yet? Do you often wonder what else you have to do to go from where you are to where you want to be?
After all you only have read all the self help books out there, gone to tons of workshops, have taking classes and maybe even trainings, so why are you not yet where you so desire to be?
It is because of what in Eastern Philosophy is called: Your Deepest Driving Desire. There is actually a quote about this that says the following: “You are what your deep, driving desire is. As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.” ~ Brihadaranyaka Upanishad.
So what is meant by the Deepest Driving Desire? First let me acknowledge that it can be confusing because if we just look at the words it can easily translate to that which you want the most, and in a way it is true, but not in the sense that one would think of.
Let me give an example, your conscious will may want a particular thing or result, but your unconscious will may want something totally different.
Therefore since we cannot look at what is unconscious we have to look at what the results are showing us to find out what is unconscious. So on a conscious level let’s say that you want to be in a mutual loving relationship, but your results are that you tend to be attracted to men that are not available which ends up having the opposite result of that which you want (to be in a mutual loving relationship).
From this you can conclude that your results are matching what your deepest driving desire (DDD) is. The DDD is the unconscious desire that matches that result. So we can conclude that there is something unconscious that wants the result that you are getting which is different than the result that you consciously want.
This means that there is a deepest driving desire (fear) that is unconsciously driving your will, your actions, and giving you the results that you are getting.
Therefore you can read all the books that you want, attend all the workshops and seminars, take all the classes and trainings you want, but if you continue to have two opposing desires going on at the same time getting from where you are to where you want to go is going to be almost impossible. As my mentors say, “it is like having one foot on the gas and one foot on the break.”
Why would you have two opposing desires going on at the same time? I am not able to say something specific because it has to do with your conditioning and with what you may have been through. Since all of us have been through different things, it will be something different for all of us.
However let me give you an example so that you can better understand. Let’s say that on a conscious level you want a mutual loving relationship, but on an unconscious level your DDD may be, “I don’t want to get hurt.” Therefore without you being conscious of it what is going to rule is your desire to “not get hurt,” thus resulting in you being attracted to unavailable men because since they are not available they are in a sense “safe.”
Bottom line whatever is your DDD we can summarize by saying that it has to do with you coming from fear instead of coming from your Divine Higher Self.
So how can you get your DDD to match what you consciously want, so that you can begin to get from where you are to where you want to go, have what you want to have, and actually see the results that you so consciously desire?
The easiest way is to get help. You can do this by applying for a free consultation http://souljourneylifecoach.com/contact/
The other way to do it is by the following:
1. Recognize that the results that you are getting are pointing to your Deepest Driving Desire which can be translated into your unconscious intention, your greater unconscious desire, and/or your deepest driving fear that is driving your life.
2. Recognize that when you are coming from fear you are coming from a place of trying to defend yourself and/or keep yourself safe.
3. Become aware of the fear (DDD) that is running your life. Once you become aware of it know that you do not even need to know what the root cause of it is, simply knowing what the fear is, is enough for you to make a conscious decision as to whether you are going to continue to allow your life to be led by this fear of not.
4. Make the decision that you are not going to allow your life to be led by this fear now that you are aware of it. In the example that I gave it means that you will be making a decision to not allow yourself to be led by your fear of getting hurt, and be willing to face the feelings, triggers, and defenses that will arise out of no longer “playing it safe.”
5. Pay attention to the energy that you are putting behind your intention and your actions, ask yourself why you want why you want, and decide to come from a higher desire without being attached to results (non attachment).
We are approaching spring. A great time for renewal. What area of your life, situation, and/or thing needs a renewal? Where in your life do you need to “stop playing it safe,” and instead be led by the divine in you rather than by your fear? Please share your answers with me by leaving your comments.